But resisting the feeling can make it feel bigger and harder to handle. The feeling no longer feels scary, or like something we need to try to avoid.Īnd often, as a result, the feeling will fade away. The more we let it be there, the easier it gets to feel that way. The harder we fight the way we’re feeling, the harder it is to feel that way. But eventually, those feelings transformed when the ending gave way to a new beginning. And during that ending you might have been sad and felt alone. I bet if you look back you’ll recognize that there was an ending that happened before that new beginning. New beginnings can feel like endings.ĭo you remember a time when you started something new? A new school year? A new summer break? A new relationship? That change wouldn’t have happened without me getting messy, having a meltdown, and letting go of some things. From there, I was able to choose other actions. From there, I was able to choose other thoughts. It was the experience of being able to question my own thinking, which helped me see that I didn’t need to believe all of my thoughts. When I gave myself the time and space to explore those questions, a freedom came. To do this, I started to notice my thinking, especially thoughts that included the words “should” and “have to.” Then I got myself to question those thoughts: Is that absolutely true? Do you have to? I had to let go of the thought that I needed to be what everyone else thought I should be. Change means shifting into something different, and to do that we may need to let go of some things and allow them melt away. The truth is that we often can’t feel better until we have a little meltdown. It helps to let ourselves rest in the knowledge that this time is natural and normal, rather than tell ourselves we need to be making progress and moving forward. We’re figuring things out, re-evaluating what we thought we wanted. Those times are often when we feel more lost and alone. But the truth is, we need times when we’re pausing. Sometimes we think we need to be making progress and moving forward, that we need to be a shining ray of light all the time. I’ve talked with so many people whose lives look amazing on Facebook and Instagram who tell me, “I feel sad. We can end up feeling like we don’t have an awesome enough life, like, if we don’t have a glamorous event to photograph and share, we suck.īut people share the highlights, not the lowlights. We can feel anxious, sad, and unhappy after going on Facebook or Instagram. People share the highlights, not the lowlights. I said to her, “Some days I just feel so alone, like nothing is okay.” She said: “Me too.” It made me feel better, and less alone. She was someone who always seemed positive and upbeat. And, people who read Tiny Buddha-just like you-have felt that way. Family members of mine have felt that way. All of my closest friends have felt that way. If you’re feeling like I felt then, here are ten things to remember. Why wasn’t that my life?Īnd then, one day, I decided to see what else was possible. I’d lie awake and wonder why I didn’t feel better, wish I could feel like everyone else seemed to-content, confident, happy. One day running straight into the next, and the next, and the next.
I’d started using sleeping pills in my last semester of university, having begged my doctor for a prescription to stop the torture of lying awake night after night. I’d pop it under my tongue to slide from the shackles of adrenaline. Wrenching myself from my love affair with the tiny white disc. Hot milk with honey, yoga postures with my feet above my head, no chocolate after three in the afternoon-I had tried it all. I would lie awake at night aching for rest and relief from my racing mind. “Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.” ~Sonia Ricotti
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